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This is Shandas' third guestbook - to view other guestbook's - please use the links at the bottom of this page.
Date: 08 July, 2006
Time: 07:57:17 PM
Dear Button: It has been 7 years since you left us. This web site helps as I feel so much closer to you when I am out here.
Love and Miss You Deeply, Dad
Date: 18 July, 2006
Time: 03:19:20 PM
Comment:
FROM Nicky in England U.K This is a very beautiful website I came across. I have problems with eating, but after looking at this site, I am determined to try to change my ways. I have 2 beautiful young children and for their sake I am going to seek help for my self. I really feel for your family, and for you too.
May god bless you. Nicky x
Date: 18 July 2006
Time: 06:26:03 PM
Glasgow, Scotland
E-mail: caroleanne171281@hotmail.com
Comment:
Your website is so incredibly touching and beautiful, it brought me to tears. I suffered from anorexia for 6 years and never thought it could cause anyone to pass away. For me it was triggered by the death of my best friend at the age of 14. I never talked to anyone about my depression or anorexia until my 5th year or suffering, but I slowly realized that talking about it helped me to recover on my own. I am now 24 and quite healthy. I am no longer physically anorexic but I sometimes worry that I might fall again. Reading other people's experiences, makes me realize now just how serious my own condition had got and that my body was trying to tell me it was shutting down. Because of my anorexia in the past, I now suffer from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and have been told I will have problems having children in the future. If you have a problem, PLEASE get help or talk to someone. Take care of yourselves, Love & Hugs Carole Anne xxx
Date: 21 July, 2006
Time: 07:11:19 AM
Comment:
Oh my God I have been so moved by reading about your story and what your family has done to keep your memory alive; such a tragedy.
Sarah, Ireland sarintino@hotmail.com
Date: 23 July, 2006
Time: 02:04:03 AM
I don't no you but I'm afraid I will end up like you. Kids at school called me fat just joking and I took it seriously I don't no how much more I can take I'll maybe meet you up in heaven one day?
[I wish you had left an email address so I could talk to you to get you help, i.e.: Talking with your Mom or the school consoler to start with. I know Shanda does not want to see you until you are in your 90's or 100 years old. Show the kids that called you Fat - Shandas' we site, that should get the message to them Please email me back at: georgiashaffer@earthlink.net ]
Date: 23 July, 2006
Time: 10:35:05 AM
Hi Button: At about this time, 33 years ago you came into the world and what a joyful day and the next [ almost ] 27 years were [ you passed over - 18 days shy of your 27th birthday ]. The 7 years that have passed since you left us have not been easy to deal with. Knowing that through your web site - you are helping others to realize just how deadly eating disorders are - that they do kill - helps me deal with you not being here physically. I know we will be together and I will be able to hug you once again. Love & Miss You, Dad
Date: 18 August, 2006
Time: 10:47:47 AM
From England:
I cried my eyes out while reading this because not a day goes by when I can look in a mirror and feel entirely happy about the way i look. I feel SO sorry for Shandas family because I know what it feels like to lose someone you love dearly. If anyone reading this site is suffering from anorexia or bulimia PLEASE PLEASE get help. BELIEVE ME BEING 'THIN' IS NOT WORTH DYING FOR. Shanda honey may god keep you safe until one day you can be reunited with your family. MAY GOD BLESS AND WATCH OVER ANYONE WHO MAY BE SUFFERING FROM AN EATING DISORDER. Everyone is 100 % beautiful so don't get caught up in wanting to be skinny. YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.. Rest in peace x Shanda x.......love always xxx
Date: 12 September, 2006
Time: 08:52:04 PM
Comment:
Hello, First of all, I'm very sorry about what happened to Shanda. I went through exactly same thing few years ago. Let me introduce myself. My name is Hannah Kim. I'm currently a California State University student majoring in Documentary film. The reason I am e-mailing you is that I'd like ask some help from Shandas' family. Personally, I am highly interested in the issue of the eating disorder since I lost my friend because of the eating disorder therefore I am planning to produce and direct a documentary as my class work. It will be about the real story of the people who are suffering from eating disorders or about the story of the family who lost a family member because of the eating disorder. My goal is to enlighten the public to be aware of the severity of eating disorder's and encourage and help people who are having a problem with the disease. In doing so, I may deal with some people's real story. For example, the person who is currently undergoing the eating disorder; the person who overcomes the problem; the family who lost their family member because of the eating disorder. While I was searching for the case, I found this web site, and I thought her family may share their story with others in order to prevent no more eating disorder in this society. I strongly believe that this film will help a lot of people and may be used for the eating disorder prevention organization's education session. Thank you for reading my e-mail. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss. Hope that I can hear from you soon. Here is my e-mail; hannah1976@gmail.com
Date: 20 September, 2006
Time: 11:56:56 AM
I am deeply sorry for your loss. She seems like she was a wonderful child and a beautiful young woman. Your site is a wonderful homage to her memory. It touched me deeply and reminded me how important it is to keep close relations with the people you care about because you never know. I wish all of you, her family, all the best.
it's another life loss without a reason...so sad and that's why we should continue to HELP people with ED! bless x
Date: 03 October, 2006
Time: 02:58:14 PM
Truly touching... Ms. Georgia. This is Antoinette from Chamonix, I'm glad u gave me the site address. Wish u well and stay blessed. ;)
Date: 18 November, 2006
Time: 08:13:07 AM
From Claire aged 16 England Thank you, I thought I was fat as a lot of people said I was (I weigh 9 stone 3 and is 5 ft 11), even though I'm thinner then them. Now I've realized I'm not fat at all, and that you should take you, as you are as your not going to be anyone else in life. Shanda seemed like a great women, but shame this disease took her from her family. sorry for your loss, but I hope you take hope in the fact that you have saved many people xxxxxx Thanx again
Date: 19 November, 2006
Time: 02:33:47 PM
I write this with tears saying thank you so much for sharing such a beautiful website. It is time we start talking openly about eating disorders and this is exactly what this site is doing. It has been five years since I battled anorexia and knowing wonderful families like this are out there is truly an inspiration to us all. God Bless
Date: 23 November, 2006
Time: 01:07:42 AM
Thank You so much for this web site. I have battled with my eating disorder for three years now. Shanda is such a beautiful person as well as her loving family. May god be with you. Thank You, Love Always
Date: 14 December, 2006
Time: 05:04:14 AM
Dear Button, this site is very touching, I am not anorexic myself in fact I am totally the opposite and I am eating myself into an early grave. I visited this site out of desperation, starving myself is also not an option. I am so sorry for the loss of Shanda she was very beautiful. Congratulations on your site it is very poignant. I am training to be a mental health nurse and this site will provide information to enable me reach out to people with this awful disease. Take Care. Jane
Date: 15 December, 2006
Time: 02:10:40 PM
I was looking up "How to be anorexic" websites. I am 15 and feel like I would be much happier and liked if I could be thin like Gisele Bundchen. I came upon this site and I have been crying the whole time. Thank you, this has changed my mind completely. RIP Shanda.
Date: 23 December, 2006
Time: 07:06:36 PM
I'm trying to be anorexic and want to be so badly. Is this a normal thought or am I suicidal or something?
Wanting to be anorexic is not normal and will only end up as a slow death as it did with Shanda, that is suicidal. Please read Shandas' Story.
Date: 25 December, 2006
Time: 01:00:00 AM
Comment:
Dear Button: Another Christmas is going to pass without you physically here, something that I will always find hard to accept. I do feel your spirit near me and it is helping me through some very tough situations I am faced with. I also know that your web site has and is helping people realize just how deadly the disease that killed you is and that they are getting help.
Love & Miss you Dearly, Dad...
Date: 01 January, 2007
Time: 01:15:49 AM
Dear Button: A new year has began. You and Theresa are the only reason I will make it through this year. I am faced with either selling this home I re-constructed for you and striping out all the cabinets, appliances, windows and whatever else can be salvaged or moving it to a new location. In addition I have to have 3 more operations within 6 months.
I do not want to move the home to another place where I will not own the land as I do not want Theresa or another family member to go through the same mess I am now faced with. Should I finally be allowed to pass over [after being sent back here 4 times] I want the home to stay in the family and it would be a home for Theresa who is trying to start a new life here away from all the problems of NY. I know you are looking over Theresa, otherwise she would not be here. And I also know she will make the right choices now.
Thank you for getting quite a few people to finally get help for the disease that killed you so it would not kill them.
I feel your presents Button - and know you will help me get the land I need to save this home from being torn apart.
Love and Miss you Deeply, Dad
Date: 07 January, 2007
Time: 02:46:55 PM
Comment:
I came across this website quite accidentally while doing some reading. To be honest with you the website made me cry. I am so sorry for your loss. I have had bulimia for almost fifteen years and have finally recently been diagnosed. It has been a constant battle of guilt, fear and body burnout 24 hours a day during this time. I recently pushed to seek help as I have a 6 month old little boy and I want to be around and be healthy for him. This website really touched me and I want to say thank you so much for allowing Shandas' story to reach out to those of us who are still struggling and want to be here for the long run. YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!!! Tammy, Canada
Date: 12 January, 2007
Time: 09:43:12 PM
Shanda, I know you are praising God in the clouds of heaven and I want to say your site has been an absolute blessing for me tonight. I have struggled with anorexia/bulimia for 13 years now and I am leaving in 13 days to go to CA for treatment. Until tonight, finding your site, I was trying to talk myself out of going, because I had not booked my flight yet. I wasn't sure I could actually go through with leaving my family for so long and going so far away. (I live in AL) I will be booking it as soon as I'm done here. I have developed several medical conditions due to this disease. Thank you for helping to possibly save my life. I have a beautiful 14 year old daughter and husband who really need me here on earth a little while longer. I am so sorry you lost the battle, but so glad you can help others!! God bless! Kimberly in AL
Date: 13 January, 2007
Time: 06:55:39 AM
Date: 6 February 2007
Time: 07:22 AM
Comment:
like to visit the clouds as often as I can,
it helps remind me just how precious life really is. I am now 29 years old and
dealing with anorexia since the age of 13,i've been doing wonderful for almost
two years now thanks to "MY" daughter and loving parents like you who share your
story. I have recently lost a friend due to anorexia. I thought it was it
for me but through her death my life began and i will beat this awful disease
for both of us and for your angel Shanda. I will be back to visit the clouds
real soon.
Angela St.John's NFLD
Date: 17 February 2007
Time: 09:19 AM
Comment:
Thank you so much for making this website in Shanda's memory, it has and will continue to touch hundreds of people. By reading Shanda's memories it brings life to facts and figures of which doctors tell, it brought tears to my eyes. It will bring light to many people, and hopefully give them the confidence to talk to someone and get help.
Date: 11 March 2007
Time: 07.55.01 AM
Comment:
Shanda:
I am so sorry this had to happen to you and your lovely and loving family. We never realize how much we are hurting the ones who love us while so entwined in anorexia/bulimia. I have had both for 29 years....and I', amazingly still alive. I'm not "playing with a full deck" anymore... I know. My body will eventually give out.
Bless you and your family.
Time: 4:19 PM
Comment:
I have just spent a beautiful afternoon with my friend. she turned 27 today but suffers with aE.D. and I am unsure of how many birthdays she will have left. I could barely read some of the comments on your site through my tears, as i realized the pain you felt in loosing someone you love so dearly. I pray i wont ever have to say i have been through it. thank you for your inner strength, your website will inspire many. life is a gift and is there to live.
Date: 28 March, 2006
Time: 12:03:54 PM
Comments:
I have looked at this site a couple times a month for the last 3 years in hope that I will never let this happen to me. There have been many times I have wanted to give into this disease, but then I remember what I would lose. I am happy to say that I have not relapsed for almost one year. I am only 16, and I want to live long enough to know that this site helped me survive something many don't.
Thank you Shanda,
Alyssa
Date: 11 April, 2006
Time: 02:57:16 PM
Hello your site is fab, it touched my heart and made me shed a tear.
Date: 14 April, 2006
Time: 12:19:30 PM
Hi I'm Emma I'm 16 at the moment... I'm not anorexic but recently its all i can think about, making a change to my body. I weigh 130 punds and I hate it, but this site has shown me that being a skeletal is not good and seriously dangerous. Thank you for enlightening me. Shanda's peaceful now, she isn't going through any more pain. Her family is truly magnificent...truly admirable God Bless
Date: 15 April, 2006
Time: 09:36:32 PM
I love your website. it is very sad yet inspirational. It sort of makes me realize the reality of living with this horrible eating disorder and how it truly can disrupt your whole life. Trying to get better, ~Michaela
Date: 17 April, 2006
Time: 02:24:05 AM
Hi, my name is Ashley and I have been suffering from anorexia for the past year. I really do appreciate your time making this site! God Bless - Love Ashley xoxoxo
Date: 21 April, 2006
Time: 07:10:53 PM
Comment:
I am very sorry for your loss, I don't want that to happen to me, this has really made me think. Beautiful tribute to your loved one.
Date: 28 April, 2006
Time: 08:35:32 AM
I really think it was good. Why? Because I wanted to be anorexic. When you see girls with the "Perfect Bodies" and getting all the boys you feel some kind of way. I still am trying to find out who I am. Thank you.
Date: 28 April, 2006
Time: 03:03:15 PM
Comment:
This site is awesome. Your site is really nice! I really enjoy your site! Just cool site! No any words else to say...
Date: 04 May, 2006
Time: 06:16:20 AM
You shall always be in my thoughts and I hope I have the courage to defeat my anorexia. I am only 17 and have had anorexia before when I was 14; a guy recently broke up with me and I have not been able to cope. I feel alone and lost, the only control or comfort I have in this world is to control myself. I want help but I am afraid I will become fat; I am 100lbs my goal was 92lbs now after reading the info on your site I am re-thinking my goals but I am afraid to be 115lbs again. Everyone seems to envy my body I don't know what to do but you're site has been helpful who knows what I will do but I hope Shanda is forever happy. Love Aydin
Date: 10 May, 2006
Time: 02:04:00 PM
I am still here, still fighting after a stint in hospital. I wanted you to know that I am still coming to your site regularly and reading the positive effect it has on people. Stick Thin.
[Hi Stick Thin - and I hope you do not use that as a nick name with everyone else. I know Shanda is really happy that you are getting the help she should have had. It is a daily fight not to fall back into the "Got to be thin to be in" mind set. Just love life and each day God gives you. That is all any of use have. Love & A Big Hug, Georgia]
Date: 23 May, 2006
Time: 07:34:11 AM
Comment:
This is a beautiful site, and you're all inspirations, she was lucky to have such a wonderful caring family, you're all truly amazing! xxx Love Laura- London, England
Date: 02 June, 2006
Time: 07:50:26 AM
Comment:
Oooh. I feel bad with Shanda's family&friends. I'm sorry. When I saw this beautiful site, I cried. A year ago, I thought that every girl have to be thin and beautiful. But now I know, that isn't true. Thank you. & lots of hugs
Date: 25 June, 2006
Time: 11:49:46 PM
HI... I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW YOUR WEBSITE IS VERY INSPIRING AND BEAUTIFUL...THOUGH I HAVE SEEN THE PICTURES MANY TIMES, I STILL GO THROUGH AND LOOK AT THEM...THOUGH WE MISS OUR LOVED ONES AND WISH THEY WERE HERE WITH US, WE MUST REMEMBER THAT CHRIST WAS ALSO ON THIS EARTH AND DIED, AND WE KNOW HE IS IN A BETTER PLACE. AND WE KNOW WE WILL SEE HIM AGAIN ONE DAY... THIS IS THE SAME WAY WITH OUR LOVED ONES. EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T KNOW SHANDA, I READ HER STORY AND LOOKED AT HER PICTURES, NOT WITH SADNESS BUT WITH JOY, CAUSE I KNOW THERE IS PEACE FOR HER, AND HER SPIRIT IS STILL WITH THOSE SHE LOVED THE MOST. AND I KNOW SHE IS SMILING KNOWING HER LOVED ONES ARE HELPING OTHERS. AND I KNOW SHE DOESN'T WANT HER STORY OR PICTURES TO BRING SADNESS, BUT JOY. AND THAT'S WHAT I FEEL WHEN I LOOK UPON THIS SITE. THOUGH THE REASON FOR THIS SITE IS SAD, THE OUTCOME IS BEAUTIFUL. PLEASE CONTINUE TO UPDATE THIS WEBSITE WITH JOY AND HOPE, JOY THAT YOU KNOW SHANDA IS IN PEACE, AND HOPE THAT OTHERS WILL LOOK AT THIS SITE AND HEAL. CHRIS, WICHITA KANSAS
Date: 30 June, 2006
Time: 02:50:21 PM
Comment:
This is a very sad and touching story. I am so sorry for your loss. I think that every young girl should read this. You guys have did a great job with this site!
Date: 30 June, 2006
Time: 03:40:17 PM
Comment:
It's amazing I truly want help now! to get better!
Date: 4 July, 2007
Time: 09:00:00 PM
Comment:
It was 8 years ago tonight at 9pm that I was last able to hug & kiss you Daughter and say I Love You; oh how I miss being able to do that. You are dearly missed by all that knew you. One day - I will be able to hug you again.
Love & A Hug, Dad
Date:
9 Aug, 2007
Time: 07:16:00 AM
Comment:
Hi,
I just wanted to say that I was so touched and moved by your website, it
had me in tears at my desk, I’ve been convincing myself for a while now
that skinny is everything, even though I don’t have an eating disorder
myself I have starved myself, taken part in stupid diets and focused all
my attention on the ‘perfect body’.
However reading your story has brought it all back to reality now, I am
a healthy, active size 12 (UK), I weight around 11 stone and my
boyfriend really loves me and is always telling me I am gorgeous,
however I used to think that wasn’t enough. Sure, I will never be
entirely happy, but I’d rather go out and have fun with my friends than
obsess about my weight.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with me (and everyone else who
reads this site).
I
cannot even imagine the pain and emptiness in your life, but remember
God loves you and death is not the end. I think you are a truly
inspirational family and this website is wonderful, heart wrenching,
tear jerking and so genuine it is incredible.
All
my thoughts and love are with you all, thank you again for sharing this
with me.
Rebecca,
Here
are the links to my other clouds:
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